Should I Attend My Father-in-laws Funeral, Or Go Boating?
Sadly, my wife’s father has died at a rather inconvenient time. I say this because in early July, some chums from the Raffles club and I like to on a boating expedition for a couple of weeks. We have a rip-roariously good time with gin, pork and ludicrous wagers.
Now this damned funeral. Would it be frowned upon if I didn’t attend? I want to go and have a merriment on a boat, and not sit there pretending to be mournful, for pity’s sake. How can I get out of it and spend my time without guilt, lolling around a boat, drinking gin and generally having a damn good wheeze?
Tags: Attend, Boating, Fatherinlaws, Funeral, Should
December 17th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
A funeral is a couple of hours. You say your fishing trip is 2 weeks. Why on earth can’t you do both? Missing a few hours of your fishing trip won’t be the end of the earth. Even if the funeral is in another town, you apparently have a little money or you wouldn’t be able to afford a 2 week fishing trip. Therefore, fly to wherever the funeral is; go to the funeral; then go back to your fishing trip. I just can’t see how a funeral could completely eliminate you from the fishing trip, the gin drinking, and the damned good wheeze.
December 17th, 2009 at 3:14 pm
I would go boating. Summer only comes once a year, and he will never know you were not around. Send the wife a nice card and flower arrangement.
Deep down, I’m sure he would have wanted it this way.
December 17th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
Go boating it is obvious in your question you have no sympathy toward your wife or her family nor do you have honour, so she is best with out a selfish, mind wandering clod there to offer her phony support. A real man would go to the funeral and catch up with his chums later. I hope she sees you for who you truly are and finds someone who cares for her and is there for support through thick and thin.
December 17th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
Judging from the question I suspect your in laws are well attune to your character and would be disappointed if you showed for the funeral. I would not let them down in their time of grief. Take your holiday and spare the family the embarrassment of your presence.
December 17th, 2009 at 4:12 pm
I would highly suggest you talk to your wife about it. She would probably appreciate it if you go. Would you be able to join in later after the funeral or cut the trip early? Or is the funeral right in the middle of the two weeks? You should really consider your wife’s feelings on this.
December 17th, 2009 at 4:28 pm
What are the chances of arranging a funeral at sea?? They are common practise for mariners in any case. Is there any history of maritime activity in the deceased?
There is always the bonus possibility (if you can arrange this) of accidentally nudging the wife overboard too *nudge, wink.
December 17th, 2009 at 4:39 pm
if your father in law was the type of guy who liked to go boating and get drunk then by all means skip the funeral , . He’ll more then understand , and don’t forget to drink a few for him , he’d of liked that .
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December 17th, 2009 at 5:26 pm
that depends… if have a wheeze good time worth going without sex for months??
Remember if your wife leave you because of you not going to the funeral she gets half of everything including your boat and your money…..
So you won’t be going for a few years…..
December 17th, 2009 at 6:17 pm
oh my..honestly…couldn’t u just be there for your wife’s sake and comfort her losing her own father? you need to be there, not to pretend mourning but being on ur wife’s side and be her partner when she needs you.
Boating…there is always another time…another year….don’t be selfish
December 17th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
I would say family come first. She’s part of your family. You can always go on another boating expedition. Sorry about your loss.
December 17th, 2009 at 7:25 pm
Boating. Your Father-in-law can’t beat getting steamin’ at sea with your chums, enjoy yourself at every oppourtunity, I don’t think as many people would notice than you’d think.
December 17th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
If you go to the funeral it’ll show your family and your wife how much you care about them~ =D..I can see the bad outcome if you go boating…
December 17th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
Death is for the dead. Life is for living. Though people may get annoyed at you.
December 17th, 2009 at 9:41 pm
Go boating. Absolutely.
December 17th, 2009 at 10:26 pm
You posted earlier about leaving your wife- are you serious now? Get a life and if you can;t support her then divorce her Rude ****
December 17th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
it depends on if you and your father in law were on good terms
if not then you have a perfectly good reason not to attend although i think it would be respectful if you went
December 18th, 2009 at 12:00 am
Would your boating friends be willing to wait until the funeral is over?
December 18th, 2009 at 12:06 am
You sound unbelievably selfish. If you do go boating I hope your Father-In-Law comes back to haunt and taunt you.
December 18th, 2009 at 12:56 am
attend it because if you don’t they will think you don’t care plus they will be really grateful if you go.
December 18th, 2009 at 1:19 am
If your wife was close to her father, you better be there with her, or life as you know it will end!
December 18th, 2009 at 2:14 am
Bring the ole chap along and have the burial at sea. It will be a h*ll of a party. Hip Hip Harraw!
December 18th, 2009 at 2:45 am
boating! boating! boating!
December 18th, 2009 at 3:07 am
Go to the funeral. Show your wife you care. There’s always next year.
December 18th, 2009 at 3:45 am
Go to the funeral – postpone the trip
December 18th, 2009 at 4:40 am
Go boating.
December 18th, 2009 at 4:45 am
Don’t you think it would mean alot to ur wife if you went to the funeral?
December 18th, 2009 at 5:29 am
delay the boat ride, its the only way
December 18th, 2009 at 5:57 am
Who do you care about more: you or your wife?
December 18th, 2009 at 6:46 am
Attend! it will show that you really do care about her family, and she will be grateful you came
December 18th, 2009 at 6:58 am
go boating and tell your wife you will be there in spirit
December 18th, 2009 at 7:01 am
duty before pleasure,an all that,old man,pip,pip