Should I Be Upset Fiance’s Says These Types Of Things- Or Am I Hormonal Cause I’m Pregnant?
Fiance’ owns his own DJ company and we do parties together. (He used to work in a bar- I never went there.) In the past, he has said things to a big busted woman coming up to the DJ booth- hey beautiful what can I play for YOU? Which I thought was inappropriate- plus I was standing right next to him- and he had no idea why I was less than happy. He mostly acts flirty- and swears it is for “the job.”
He is very jealous of me- and asks what guys want- if he sees- that come up to the booth. He also has had issues- 2 yrs ago- with infidelity.
Well- I am 3 mos pregnant- and we did a party the other night. He is typically touchy feely with the women and belly up at the bar- while I am at the DJ booth all night. He is chatting it up with people- and talking it up on the microphone. (Most of the time I don’t even know where he is- this is typical.) At one point- he says on the mic- “I have my eyes on you ladies.” Then after this young woman won the 50/50 raffle
He was telling em today how awesome the party went. And I mentioned it to him that I really feel he acts like a single person and I would never treat him like that. He denied it- I don’t even think he remembers- because he drank so much and I drove the truck home. His teenage son was also there. Anyhow- I told him I did not make it up- and was hoping he would apologize. NOT.
Would this tick you off or am I hormonal? Thanks. 
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December 13th, 2009 at 1:46 am
You said “And I mentioned it to him that I really feel he acts like a single person ‘…HE IS SINGLE. Everything he is saying sounds exactly like what DJ’s say. My firm hires a DJ every year for our parties and they all speak like that. He is doing his job to keep the crowd happy. If it upsets you, stay at home. You don’t do parties together….you just go with him when he does a party. If you are so jealous and insecure, get a man who does not interact with women in a festive environment. There is nothing to kill a party like a boring DJ.
December 13th, 2009 at 2:28 am
ur hormonal!
this is part of being a DJ.
u have to make people feel special and attractive, this is how you get gigs. its called networking!
if u have problem with this, i would suggest u not go with him to gigs, then he has to do his job and drink less.
December 13th, 2009 at 2:32 am
Seriously, SERIOUSLY pissed OFF!!!
I understand that a DJ is a showman and he needs to keep the crowd happy, and yes, flirting can be part of the job. But he is totally disrespectful of you as the mother of his child at the very least.
I was surprised when you mentioned that he has a teenaged son, when means he’s in his 30s at least. He sounds like he’s still in college…drinking on the job, having affairs, acting jealous when an innocent male guest requests a song for you, but thinks nothing of openly flirting with the girls at the weddings. If I were you I’d be seriously re-thinking my future with this man.
December 13th, 2009 at 2:55 am
Well i think there are some things he could say for the job, but i think the way he acted was out of line. Doing that while you were there what does he do when you arent there, and being pregnant you wont always be there talk to him maybe he will be willing to stop some of the comments and flirting.
December 13th, 2009 at 2:57 am
I’m guessing (correct me if I am wrong) that you knew he was like this before you got involved with him. You certainly must have known he was like this, before you decided to have sex with him and end up pregnant with his child.
If you’re with a man who behaves this way, it’s because you CHOSE to be. Sorry to have to say that, but it’s true.
Unfortunately, this seems to be the way of it in the early 21st century — women having sex with, and getting pregnant by, men who they don’t first bother getting to know well.
This isn’t how “strong, independent women” of modern-day society are supposed to act.
To answer your question — yes, you should be upset at your fiancee for acting this way. But you should also be upset at yourself for getting involved with a guy like this, when you knew this is how he is.
I seriously doubt you’re going to be able to get him to change his ways. So your two choices are to either lie in the bed you made and stick it out with this man (and hope he doesn’t cheat on you), or dump him and make better decisions in the future when it comes to men.
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December 13th, 2009 at 3:50 am
Well, I wouldn’t have a child for a man who hadn’t made the commitment of marriage to me. He acts single because he is single. He also sounds like he has a drinking problem. Blacking out is not a good sign. You haven’t chosen the father of your child very well.